With dating and hookup sites like Mature Hookup, online dating is no longer limited to a specific set of target audience. Avenues are opening up, including for mature or older women who want to date younger men. Cougar dating is definitely on!

As a younger man dealing with a mature woman, you might be a little out of your element, especially if your experiences have always been with women younger or the same age as you. Not to worry, this guide will provide you all the tools you need to succeed dating a mature woman.

Be assertive

Older women don’t have time to dilly-dally, so if you want to go out with her, be direct and ask her out with all the confidence you can muster. Being shy about it is the last thing you’d want to do. Because, you see, a man who knows what he wants is the sexiest kind, regardless of age and status.

Don’t mind the age gap

Between you and her, she’s more than aware of the difference in your age. So there’s no need to state the obvious and worry about her being 5, 10, or 15 years your senior. Age, after all, should not be a major concern. Or, is it?

It is important that you are in a relationship not because of the other’s age. According to dating coach Scot Mckay of DESERVEWHATYOUWANT.COM, if age is your priority then your priorities are off. “Unless both of you are only about a quick fling.”

Understand her values and priorities

The rules of dating women may be the same whether she is old or young. That, is you need to be kind fun, loving, and gentle. But you should know that mature women have different values than younger women.

Sex, for example, may be placed in a priority lower than romance and intimacy. This means you need to change your strategy and invest more time on what she needs to achieve what you need.

Because the more time you invest in romance and intimacy the more she will be in the mood for sex, according to Life & Relationship expert and motivational speaker Cheyenne Bostock.

Take it slow but don’t waste their time

Older women know exactly what they want, so it is important that you get to know her outside of the bedroom and learn about what she likes. Don’t take too long getting to know her, though.

Remember rule#1?

They like a man who is mature and confident and not a boy who is shy, who plays games and, worse, who is dishonest. You can be sure that, if you act like a boy, she won’t waste time moving on to another younger man.

Avoid using labels

With the popularity of the TV show Cougar Town, the term cougar is now widely known as a reference to a hot woman that is several years older than the younger men she is hunting for or dating.

This doesn’t mean that you can use it to refer to her, which is just disrespectful on so many levels. A lot of women, old or young, finds the term offensive. So don’t use that label, like ever.

Remember these tips and succeed in your first foray into dating a mature woman.

Shelia Gregory